This is how it works.. More like this’s how I think it works ..
When you step into your 40s, you latch onto the trend that says ’40s is the new 20s’ .. When you are short in height, you latch onto the trend that says ‘all big things come in small packages’ .. When you don’t look like that beautiful girl in that fashion magazine, you latch onto the trend that says ‘even the girl in the magazine doesn’t look like that in real’ .. When you age and all or most of your friends are married, you latch onto the trend that says ‘Travel, live, settlement is boring.. Why and how can one spend their whole life with one person, too boring a thought’ .. When the society questions you about your social status, you latch onto the trend that says ‘I don’t believe in these trends, I make my own path.. People follow’ and when someone comments on your weight .. You latch onto the trend that says ‘be yourself, live your life on your own terms, be you because all others are taken’ .. And the list goes on and on and on ..
The truth is, there are and will always be trends around.. You would find one or the other that fits and suits your needs at all times .. Sometimes you got to look a little harder, sometimes it’s right in front of you .. You will always find a community of people believing in what you believe in, doing what you would like to do ..
The trick then, to live and survive is not to find or look out for these trends.. The toughest thing to do is to stay trend free 🙂 The more trend free you become, the more you grow.. Or in other words, neither try to borrow and lean in to others, nor try to give or lend yourself to lean on .. That’s the only way, freedom, is justified and defined, I think 🙂